WE EASILY SEE WHAT IS DONE TO US
BEFORE WE SEE WHAT WE ARE DOING TO OUR MATE.
Love is not enough to sustain a relationship. I women need this but what about the mans needs he needs the other half of that which is respect. When one partner lacks what is needed Emerson describes this as “The Crazy Cycle”: Without love-she reacts and Without respect-he reacts; a revolving door or cycle if you please. The simple secret to a better marriage/a better relationship is providing the other with the basic need they are wired with; respect for him and love for her. This doesn’t mean that she doesn’t require respect or that he doesn’t need love. It simply means they’re not first on the list.
Women and men speak in code languages and only the same-sex seems to understand. Until you learn how you will continue– the Crazy Cycle.
When a woman criticizes a man all he hears is contempt and when a man is silent a woman views this as hostility. Women must learn that respect is a man’s deepest value and once he feels respected you will no longer ask why he doesn’t love me or does he love me and if he didn’t before he will gladly give his heart. Conflict makes men feel disrespected; this is the nagging and scolding we ladies do. So ladies we really hold the power to stop–the Crazy Cycle.
Are Love & respect the same thing? NO; you can respect someone and not love then and vice versa. All this should be obvious right? NO
Stay tune for Part#3; til then “It’s Been Dlish Dishing w/ Y’all”